Conflict Relationship
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ESE-ILI
SEI-LIE
LII-SEE
EIE-SLI
SLE-EII
LSI-IEE
IEI-LSE
These are relations of brewing conflict beneath the surface. The degree of psychological compatibility in this relationship is minimal. However, this is not immediately obvious. Conflict partner often seems attractive. He evokes a feeling of awe by showing his high level of development of characteristics and style of thinking in which you yourself are weak. Contact and convergence at first seem possible, but on the way there things seem to persistently go wrong. Pondering why these attempts to find common language do not work out, one comes to conclusion that the cause of misunderstanding is not that significant and easily removable. It is only necessary to invest some more effort and your partner will understand you. There is persistent unwitting desire to somehow positively predispose this person to yourself. However, these attempts are like walking on the edge of a chasm – there is always a danger of falling into it and getting drawn into fruitless, exhausting fights. In these quarrels, partners inevitably verbally hit each other's most vulnerable places. There is a desire to prove something to your conflictor, to clarify, to fully explain yourself, and he on purpose refuses to understand you. This eventually causes a lot of inner anger and neurotic feelings. Perhaps the worst part of these relations is that with conflict partners there is often no mutual helping each other – conflict partners fail to defend one another against external attacks and threats. This doesn't imply verbal defense, but fulfilling complementary tasks for your partner which he clearly cannot do due his weaknesses. Due to this, these relations often lack a sense of security. This is particularly acute in a perceived hostile environment. Parting with conflict partner, after prolonged attempts to find common ground, the person often feels relieved.
Advice on getting along: These relations cause the ever-present inner tensions. People brought together by these relations over time become anxious and irritable. In collaboration with your conflict partner, strictly divide duties among yourselves and carry them out according to a firm schedule/plan. Rationalization will help you keep internal nervousness and negative emotions at bay and channel accumulated energy into useful things of homemaking or leisurely nature.
It is recommended to use humor and jokes to uplift each other's moods. However, joke carefully and avoid sarcasm. Once you feel that the tension has reached a critical point, it is best that you leave the vicinity of your conflict partner (for example, go to a different room).
Do not allow any mediators into your relations. Household duties do together, but don't take up the same duty together. Avoid surprises, fancies, novelties, as your partner is likely to react negatively to them.
Keep fidelity out of a sense of duty, consciously suppress resentment and antipathy. Make it a tradition to celebrate the most pleasant moments of your relationship. Help each other in the most difficult moments. This way you will see responsiveness and effectiveness of these relations in the pursuit of mutual interests against outside pressure and adversity.
Disorienting hospitality: Conflict partner immediately draws your attention via some unusual effect he has on you. If your areas of activity are separate, then communication is overall polite and amiable. Especially of interest are the methods which conflict partner uses to solve his problems. When trying to work more closely, his behavior starts to seem confusing. As a result of this, irritation builds up, which can lead to conflict if partners don't distance in time.
Conflict (Rational Relation): Conflictness, in order not to develop into a collision, needs planning for the discharge of internal emotional tension. The integrated conflict participants do not tolerate the unknown, hints, “visits” from the rear. These relations are stable only if they rely on a firm, once and for all established rhythm of life.
Conflict (Static Relation): Conflict relations require special static character . Conflicts preserve the existing balance of power, do not like surprises. The transition to a new mode of existence is extremely difficult, is perceived almost as a natural disaster. Partners in a conflict couple resist change, cling to the old. And just making sure that all ties are broken, they accept a new way of life.
Conflict (Involutionary Relation): Conflict relationships bring antipodes together - the most opposing types of people. The convergence of positions here is only short-term, during which partners can move forward significantly. In other cases, the differences are fixed. Internal tension immediately makes itself felt if the conflict approaches closer to a shorter distance than external circumstances force them. At best, everything ends with mutual banter, at worst, with forceful collision.
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ESE-ILI
SEI-LIE
LII-SEE
EIE-SLI
SLE-EII
LSI-IEE
IEI-LSE
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These are relations of brewing conflict beneath the surface. The degree of psychological compatibility in this relationship is minimal. However, this is not immediately obvious. Conflict partner often seems attractive. He evokes a feeling of awe by showing his high level of development of characteristics and style of thinking in which you yourself are weak. Contact and convergence at first seem possible, but on the way there things seem to persistently go wrong. Pondering why these attempts to find common language do not work out, one comes to conclusion that the cause of misunderstanding is not that significant and easily removable. It is only necessary to invest some more effort and your partner will understand you. There is persistent unwitting desire to somehow positively predispose this person to yourself. However, these attempts are like walking on the edge of a chasm – there is always a danger of falling into it and getting drawn into fruitless, exhausting fights. In these quarrels, partners inevitably verbally hit each other's most vulnerable places. There is a desire to prove something to your conflictor, to clarify, to fully explain yourself, and he on purpose refuses to understand you. This eventually causes a lot of inner anger and neurotic feelings. Perhaps the worst part of these relations is that with conflict partners there is often no mutual helping each other – conflict partners fail to defend one another against external attacks and threats. This doesn't imply verbal defense, but fulfilling complementary tasks for your partner which he clearly cannot do due his weaknesses. Due to this, these relations often lack a sense of security. This is particularly acute in a perceived hostile environment. Parting with conflict partner, after prolonged attempts to find common ground, the person often feels relieved.
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Advice on getting along: These relations cause the ever-present inner tensions. People brought together by these relations over time become anxious and irritable. In collaboration with your conflict partner, strictly divide duties among yourselves and carry them out according to a firm schedule/plan. Rationalization will help you keep internal nervousness and negative emotions at bay and channel accumulated energy into useful things of homemaking or leisurely nature.
It is recommended to use humor and jokes to uplift each other's moods. However, joke carefully and avoid sarcasm. Once you feel that the tension has reached a critical point, it is best that you leave the vicinity of your conflict partner (for example, go to a different room).
Do not allow any mediators into your relations. Household duties do together, but don't take up the same duty together. Avoid surprises, fancies, novelties, as your partner is likely to react negatively to them.
Keep fidelity out of a sense of duty, consciously suppress resentment and antipathy. Make it a tradition to celebrate the most pleasant moments of your relationship. Help each other in the most difficult moments. This way you will see responsiveness and effectiveness of these relations in the pursuit of mutual interests against outside pressure and adversity.
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Social relations: These relations include Duality, Activity, Super-ego, and Conflict. These relations are designed for fitting into society, creating a family, making a circle of friends, finding one's social group. These relations put a load on type's vital functions (positions 3, 4, 5, 6).
Conflict (Heavy Social) – Helps to survive in poor conditions, in hostile and difficult social environments. Instead of flexibility and resourcefulness, trains steadfastness and tolerance in a tense atmosphere. The paradox of this kind of conflict is that partners are unconsciously looking for or creating problems for themselves that give rise to the tension, in order to then pull together to overcome them.
Social relations: These relations include Duality, Activity, Super-ego, and Conflict. These relations are designed for fitting into society, creating a family, making a circle of friends, finding one's social group. These relations put a load on type's vital functions (positions 3, 4, 5, 6).
Conflict (Heavy Social) – Helps to survive in poor conditions, in hostile and difficult social environments. Instead of flexibility and resourcefulness, trains steadfastness and tolerance in a tense atmosphere. The paradox of this kind of conflict is that partners are unconsciously looking for or creating problems for themselves that give rise to the tension, in order to then pull together to overcome them.
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Decelerating Relations: These relations are opposite in their energetics to relations of acceleration. The total energy potential of such dyad falls over time, simultaneously there is deepening of informational connections between partners. The advantage of these relations is thus not in activity, but in high-quality, comprehensive treatment of mutually useful or interesting information. The main recommendation is to use these relations for self-improvement and personal growth.
Conflict - two-way (mutual) reverse supervision. This relation makes the partner particularly cautious, awaiting unpleasant actions from the opposite side. Relation generates internal mobilization and readiness to defend oneself at any time. One is as if auditing the other and at the same time knows that he himself will be audited.
Decelerating Relations: These relations are opposite in their energetics to relations of acceleration. The total energy potential of such dyad falls over time, simultaneously there is deepening of informational connections between partners. The advantage of these relations is thus not in activity, but in high-quality, comprehensive treatment of mutually useful or interesting information. The main recommendation is to use these relations for self-improvement and personal growth.
Conflict - two-way (mutual) reverse supervision. This relation makes the partner particularly cautious, awaiting unpleasant actions from the opposite side. Relation generates internal mobilization and readiness to defend oneself at any time. One is as if auditing the other and at the same time knows that he himself will be audited.
Balanced-Stable Relations: Relations have such temperament: Conflict, Mirror, Direct revision, Reverse audit. They are opposite in their temperamental effect to linear-energetic relations - they have an inhibitory and retarding effect on the dyad. These relationships take energy, but stimulate information processes. The key word conveying their meaning is BRAKING.
Conflict - vital inhibition. Partners interfere with each other in the implementation of daily life. Life support processes freeze, freeze, but at the same time become more thoughtful and sustainable.
Conflict - vital inhibition. Partners interfere with each other in the implementation of daily life. Life support processes freeze, freeze, but at the same time become more thoughtful and sustainable.
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Disorienting hospitality: Conflict partner immediately draws your attention via some unusual effect he has on you. If your areas of activity are separate, then communication is overall polite and amiable. Especially of interest are the methods which conflict partner uses to solve his problems. When trying to work more closely, his behavior starts to seem confusing. As a result of this, irritation builds up, which can lead to conflict if partners don't distance in time.
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Conflict (Introverted Relation): The conflict relationship is introverted. The disagreements that have arisen will only swell with the intervention of third parties. The deep-seated causes of conflict are the complete opposite of the basic properties of a person when communicating face to face are not eliminated (this is impossible in principle), but are bridled and driven inside. The conflict couple becomes more accommodating with maximum isolation from external influences.
Conflict (Rational Relation): Conflictness, in order not to develop into a collision, needs planning for the discharge of internal emotional tension. The integrated conflict participants do not tolerate the unknown, hints, “visits” from the rear. These relations are stable only if they rely on a firm, once and for all established rhythm of life.
Conflict (Ethical Relation): Participants in conflicting relations are supposedly ready to demonstrate rationality, since they still manage to stick together despite the apparent dissimilarity of characters, but this becomes possible only through constant suppression of internal negative emotions. Conflict tips seem deliberately illogical. You have to constantly restrain yourself, so as not to strike back.
Conflict (Sensing Relation): Conflict relations impede bold and relaxed initiatives, orient people to conservative, routine values. They are quickly extinguished "flight of fancy." Partners are successfully engaged only in cases known to them and practiced in practice.
Conflict (Static Relation): Conflict relations require special static character . Conflicts preserve the existing balance of power, do not like surprises. The transition to a new mode of existence is extremely difficult, is perceived almost as a natural disaster. Partners in a conflict couple resist change, cling to the old. And just making sure that all ties are broken, they accept a new way of life.
Conflict (Involutionary Relation): Conflict relationships bring antipodes together - the most opposing types of people. The convergence of positions here is only short-term, during which partners can move forward significantly. In other cases, the differences are fixed. Internal tension immediately makes itself felt if the conflict approaches closer to a shorter distance than external circumstances force them. At best, everything ends with mutual banter, at worst, with forceful collision.
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So far you have covered all relations except for Semi-Duality. Why is this so? I would love to see you cover Semi-Duality.
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