Redemption Relationship
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These are relations of unstable distance i.e. partners find it difficult to establish the right psychological distance. It can be achieved only when they are interacting alone. Appearance of third person has a devastating effect: competition and arguments being to surface (competition of verbal functions), which sometimes degenerates into caustic debates. Nobody wants to drop their credibility in the eyes of the third party, as debate will center around strong functions of each partner. Partners become impressed by the manner the other behaves in company, by his cordiality and warmth. This facilitates the transition to closer distances. When communicating in a group, psychological climate suddenly begins to change. Introvert partner gradually becomes alienated. Relations lose their warmth, become formal, wariness appears. Both secretly begin to regret previously moving towards more intimate and open relations. To the extraverted partner it seems like he has been misunderstood, that he has been treated with bias. This seem surprising, since previously communicating one-on-one and mutual understanding seemed to have been much better. Introvert partner starts to dampen activity of extravert partner: accusatory notes begin to appear in his speech, he speaks out strongly against the extrovert and criticizes him. Extrovert tries to respond in kind. These peculiar relations vaguely resemble alternation of semi-duality with supervision. The extraverted partner is probably in a more vulnerable position here. On the one hand, he feels "like behind the enemy lines": starts to take up everything in his address, fears to make the wrong step and become exposed. On the other hand, he still sees that his partner is a good and decent person in general. Only having high level of personal, social, and cultural development can help extinguishment partners avoid mutual recrimination.
Advice for getting along
Comfort in these relations can be achieved by communicating in a narrow circle of friends or associates. Extinguishment effect gets triggered in presence of other people – partners begin to challenge the views of another without providing solid arguments to back up their points of view. Learn to knowingly accept criticisms of each other and to derive benefit from them – your ideas and incentive in the light of criticism of extinguishment partner will become more realistic.
Get your contrary partner involved when you need to critically evaluate something or make a forecast of a project. Do not expect your partner to participate in the implementation of your plans. Collaborative technical work will proceed very slowly and follow a strict route.
If relations are upset, do not try to resolve them on an emotional level. Separate and spend some time alone, then resume relations as if nothing had happened. Be interested in new information that will give you both food for thought and discussion.
Periodically discharge accumulated irritation through jokes and humor. From time to time, arrange a delicious meal with your favorite food and drinks. Treat each other with pleasantries and remedies. Combine your ideas for practical use - not for finding the ultimate truth. Find answers to your questions in past experiences.
Research relations: This group includes Identical, Mirror, Extinguishment and Quasi-identical relations. Their goal – to learn more about the world, its fundamental laws, and about oneself through comparison with others. Within these types of relations, ability to make comparisons, analyses, classifications, and to put forward advanced hypothesis improves markedly. Research relations train one's mental functions. I use term "mental" here not in the sense of "belonging to the mental processes" but in reference to the mental 1, 2, 7 and 8 functional positions in socionics model.
Extinguishment (Light Research) – review, critique of each other's positions, sharing of interesting and useful information, accumulation of information.
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Decelerating-accelerating relations: These relations are similar to a swinging pendulum, but in contrast with relations of resonance they do not require compulsory attuning from partners. Such an adjustment is automatic after a while. The movement goes from minus (deceleration) to plus (acceleration) in the first half of the cycle of interaction and then swings in the opposite direction in the second half of the cycle. Adaptation of partners to each other takes place more smoothly and naturally than in relations of resonance. Thus another name for these types of relations is "symbiotic relations". Symbiosis is a mutually beneficial co-existence based on cooperation. The main recommendation for symbiotic relations: "surrender to the will of the waves," do not try to prove anything to each other, strictly separate duties, behave the way you want to and allow for your partner to do same. The trait of rationality / irrationality has an effect on these relations. Semi-dual relations are more favorable in a rational dyad while mirage relations are more favorable in irrational dyad.
Extinguishment - anti-phase energy oscillations of opposite temperaments. Your partner is your unconscious ideal: he is already at the point towards which you are aiming.
Receptive-Adaptive Relations: This temperament has a relationship: Duality, Redemption, Semi-duality, Mirage. This temperament makes the outcome very sensitive, leads partners to adjust, the natural synchronization of their actions. The key word for them is BALANCE. The balance of receptive-adaptive relations is mobile, deviating and self-restoring. The temperaments of the partners more or less compensate each other, giving rise to the desire for homeostasis. Time works to stabilize this relationship, smoothing more and more the sharp angles of the opposites.
Redemption - mental equilibrium. Synchronization of mental rhythms in the dyad. The process of reflection after adjustment proceeds freely and easily. As a result of the discussion, a more powerful intellectual system is not necessarily born, but the process of the exchange of thoughts is satisfying.
Comfortable discussion: Initiating communication partners are drawn to debate, in which they feel comfortable. The more active partner relays his opinions, while the less active one offers commentary and imparts his corrections. Partners usually appeal to one another with style of behavior. Each other's peculiar thinking style feels like a pleasant surprise. However, in presence of a third party extinguishment effect occurs – your partner impedes your attempts to develop a mutually interesting idea, arguing against it.
ESE-ESI
SEI-SEE
LII-LIE
EIE-EII
SLE-SLI
LSI-LSE
IEI-IEE
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These are relations of unstable distance i.e. partners find it difficult to establish the right psychological distance. It can be achieved only when they are interacting alone. Appearance of third person has a devastating effect: competition and arguments being to surface (competition of verbal functions), which sometimes degenerates into caustic debates. Nobody wants to drop their credibility in the eyes of the third party, as debate will center around strong functions of each partner. Partners become impressed by the manner the other behaves in company, by his cordiality and warmth. This facilitates the transition to closer distances. When communicating in a group, psychological climate suddenly begins to change. Introvert partner gradually becomes alienated. Relations lose their warmth, become formal, wariness appears. Both secretly begin to regret previously moving towards more intimate and open relations. To the extraverted partner it seems like he has been misunderstood, that he has been treated with bias. This seem surprising, since previously communicating one-on-one and mutual understanding seemed to have been much better. Introvert partner starts to dampen activity of extravert partner: accusatory notes begin to appear in his speech, he speaks out strongly against the extrovert and criticizes him. Extrovert tries to respond in kind. These peculiar relations vaguely resemble alternation of semi-duality with supervision. The extraverted partner is probably in a more vulnerable position here. On the one hand, he feels "like behind the enemy lines": starts to take up everything in his address, fears to make the wrong step and become exposed. On the other hand, he still sees that his partner is a good and decent person in general. Only having high level of personal, social, and cultural development can help extinguishment partners avoid mutual recrimination.
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Advice for getting along
Comfort in these relations can be achieved by communicating in a narrow circle of friends or associates. Extinguishment effect gets triggered in presence of other people – partners begin to challenge the views of another without providing solid arguments to back up their points of view. Learn to knowingly accept criticisms of each other and to derive benefit from them – your ideas and incentive in the light of criticism of extinguishment partner will become more realistic.
Get your contrary partner involved when you need to critically evaluate something or make a forecast of a project. Do not expect your partner to participate in the implementation of your plans. Collaborative technical work will proceed very slowly and follow a strict route.
If relations are upset, do not try to resolve them on an emotional level. Separate and spend some time alone, then resume relations as if nothing had happened. Be interested in new information that will give you both food for thought and discussion.
Periodically discharge accumulated irritation through jokes and humor. From time to time, arrange a delicious meal with your favorite food and drinks. Treat each other with pleasantries and remedies. Combine your ideas for practical use - not for finding the ultimate truth. Find answers to your questions in past experiences.
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Research relations: This group includes Identical, Mirror, Extinguishment and Quasi-identical relations. Their goal – to learn more about the world, its fundamental laws, and about oneself through comparison with others. Within these types of relations, ability to make comparisons, analyses, classifications, and to put forward advanced hypothesis improves markedly. Research relations train one's mental functions. I use term "mental" here not in the sense of "belonging to the mental processes" but in reference to the mental 1, 2, 7 and 8 functional positions in socionics model.
Extinguishment (Light Research) – review, critique of each other's positions, sharing of interesting and useful information, accumulation of information.
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Decelerating-accelerating relations: These relations are similar to a swinging pendulum, but in contrast with relations of resonance they do not require compulsory attuning from partners. Such an adjustment is automatic after a while. The movement goes from minus (deceleration) to plus (acceleration) in the first half of the cycle of interaction and then swings in the opposite direction in the second half of the cycle. Adaptation of partners to each other takes place more smoothly and naturally than in relations of resonance. Thus another name for these types of relations is "symbiotic relations". Symbiosis is a mutually beneficial co-existence based on cooperation. The main recommendation for symbiotic relations: "surrender to the will of the waves," do not try to prove anything to each other, strictly separate duties, behave the way you want to and allow for your partner to do same. The trait of rationality / irrationality has an effect on these relations. Semi-dual relations are more favorable in a rational dyad while mirage relations are more favorable in irrational dyad.
Extinguishment - anti-phase energy oscillations of opposite temperaments. Your partner is your unconscious ideal: he is already at the point towards which you are aiming.
Receptive-Adaptive Relations: This temperament has a relationship: Duality, Redemption, Semi-duality, Mirage. This temperament makes the outcome very sensitive, leads partners to adjust, the natural synchronization of their actions. The key word for them is BALANCE. The balance of receptive-adaptive relations is mobile, deviating and self-restoring. The temperaments of the partners more or less compensate each other, giving rise to the desire for homeostasis. Time works to stabilize this relationship, smoothing more and more the sharp angles of the opposites.
Redemption - mental equilibrium. Synchronization of mental rhythms in the dyad. The process of reflection after adjustment proceeds freely and easily. As a result of the discussion, a more powerful intellectual system is not necessarily born, but the process of the exchange of thoughts is satisfying.
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Redemption (Introverted Relation): For a redemption relationship, bringing a discussion to a wide range of listeners is contraindicated. If in a narrow circle there is a mutual correction of behavior and the enrichment of new factual information, then extraverting starts the unpleasant process of redeeming challenging the opinions of another without convincing arguments.
Redemption (Irrational Relation): Redemption is a relationship that predicts well the behavior of each other partners, which becomes uninteresting if their behavior is rationalized. This couple needs a relaxed periodic philosophizing and critical analysis of what is happening around. It is able to flexibly adapt to the pressure of the external situation.
Redemption (Logical Relation): In the redeeming relationship, technological flaws of each other are clearly visible. They are characterized by reproaches for lack of thoughtfulness of actions, skeptics and criticism. Emotions for these relationships are destructive: grievances sever them for a long time. Well calculating the partner’s flaws, you often forget about the vulnerability of your own position.
Redemption (Intuitive Relation): In a redemption relationship, you are interested in the partner’s approach, its concept, that is, the general principles of operation, not its actual achievements and current status. There is a hope to adopt its technologies and techniques, but it does not have sufficient grounds. Redeeming partners quite successfully predict each other's behavior.
Redemption (Intuitive Relation): In a redemption relationship, you are interested in the partner’s approach, its concept, that is, the general principles of operation, not its actual achievements and current status. There is a hope to adopt its technologies and techniques, but it does not have sufficient grounds. Redeeming partners quite successfully predict each other's behavior.
Redemption (Dynamic Relation): In the relationship of repayment in the first place is not the emotional dynamics, but a sudden change of actions of the partner. Relationships allow you to basically predict the success or failure of another. They have an “amortizing” effect, that is, they mitigate defeat, but they also diminish success. Partners seem to hesitate in antiphase.
Redemption (Evolutionary Relation): And the last relation from the category of evolutionary - repayment . It is cutting off those aspirations of partners that seem to be "extremist", unjustifiably pointed. Such a critical lapping of opinions and intentions ends with a rather tolerant attitude towards the behavior of another. And here we see the process of coming to the middle line, which suits both, although far from the original ideal.
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