Superego Relationship

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There are relations of mutual respect. Superego means "super-I". One superego partner is perceived as a distant and somewhat mysterious ideal. His mannerisms and way of thinking inspire interest. At large distances, these relations are often outwardly cool while internally partners often develop mutual sympathies and affection for one another. If there is no common topic for conversation, which would be interesting for both partners, communication carries rather formal character. There is desire to express one's point of view rather than to listen to your partner. This happens because the topic of conversation often falls in the area of strong functions of one partner that are weak in another, listening to which is uninteresting. This creates an impression that your partner understands and is interested in you, even though you suspect that this interest is shallow.  When the distance grows closer, the nature of these relations takes on a new, less pleasant undertone. In words, understanding usually remains good, especially with matching subtypes. But in deeds it is as if the partner does everything to frustrate you. Partners either fail to inform each other about their intentions, or do not listen to each other closely. Thus they end up doing the opposite of what their partner had expected of them. This can cause many arguments and conflict, but even in this case internal affection towards one's partner does not disappear or even diminish. Hope that the ideal is still achievable persists.  Extraversion-introversion of partners has significant effect on these relations. In a pair of two extraverts, one is usually dissatisfied that the other pays too little attention to him and is too preoccupied with outside matters. In a pair of introverts, it is the opposite case, one partner feels that the other is too intrusive and clingy, and doesn't leave him alone. In both cases this results in misunderstandings and quarrels.

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Advice on getting along

These relations will require from you flexibility and diplomacy. If one partner attains some benefits, the other often reacts strongly and dramatically in response to this inequality. Do not attempt to gain something for yourself at the expense of another: this will surely lead to a quarrel. Try to establish mutually beneficial exchanges. Expand your circle of acquaintances, especially from other cities and distant regions. If you feel that relations are becoming worse, focus on partner's better qualities, pay him or her some compliments. Combine your efforts together against external opposition and problems.

Learn to feel for each other in order to not unintentionally hurt your partner. It is not recommended to use logic to try to understand the causes of changes in behavior of your partner. More often switch from one type of activity to another. Do this by mutual desires and without any prior plans.

Keep in mind that in these relations, both people cannot be simultaneously active. Constantly alternate who will expand the energy. Do not engage in philosophizing and theorizing. Whenever small differences arise resolve them with minor compromises.

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Social relations: These relations include Duality, Activity, Super-ego, and Conflict. These relations are designed for fitting into society, creating a family, making a circle of friends, finding one's social group. These relations put a load on type's vital functions (positions 3, 4, 5, 6).

Superego (Heavy Social) – Generates a lot of inconveniences in daily life and leisure time activities. Partners run into lack of acceptance of their vital habits. Frequent outbreaks of unmotivated emotions follow. Such situation trains one to be flexible in life, to learn how to get comfortable despite external resistance.

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Accelerating-Decelerating Relations:  This type of relations is characterized by unavoidable oscillations in energy from positive (acceleration) to negative (deceleration). In such dyad, there is build-up of energy during the first phase of interaction and subsequent increase in resistance in the second half. Another name for such relations is relations of resonance, since they transpire smoothly if one partner is able to adjust to the other partner's rhythm of life. However, it is not possible to hold this resonance for long periods of time - now and then there are breaks and misunderstandings. The main recommendation is to engage in negotiations and to seek recovery of the lost balance by way of making mutual concessions. It should be noted that the general nature of relations will be influenced by characteristic of rationality / irrationality. For example, business relations as a whole are better formed in a rational dyad, as in such a dyad one partner will be ethical type and another logical type. Kindred relations for the same reason are better formed within irrational dyad. If both partners are ethical or logical such distribution does not give complementarity in psychological sense.

Superego - oscillations are in anti-phase. Where one partner is experiencing difficulties, the other feels sure of him/herself. Partners understand each other's pragmatic motives very well. You can as if physically feel your partner's thoughts and intentions because you are already at the point towards which he is striving (an effect which is explained by the coincidence one partners mental function with another partners vital functions).

Flexible-Agile Relations: This temperamental group includes relations: Superego, Identity, Business, Related. Represent the opposite of equilibrium relationships. They arise with the similarity of temperaments of interacting sociotypes. Partners acquire flexibility in behavior, rapid switching from one mode of action to another. The key word for them is RESONANCE. Resonance in Latin means an echo, echo. In order for the buildup to occur, the partners must forcibly synchronize the “natural frequencies”, as if “sound” one inside the other.

Superego - vital resonance. Leadership in such a dyad cannot be seized for long. A struggle is unfolding for more comforts, in which the lead and the follower alternate. At the same time, internal attachment is developed, which contributes to a compromise.

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Hospitable monotony:  Initially, communication is interesting, but too monotonous and tiresome. It takes a lot of effort to introduce an element of novelty and originality. In this way, partners can reach a fairly substantial degree of reciprocity for some time. Over time each begins to demand more attention than the other person is willing to grant him. Complains and criticisms begin to surface and flourish on this ground. Partners start to think of each other as selfish. Constant minor disagreements and squabbles are an inevitable component of these relations at close distance.

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Superego (Extroverted Relation): The superego relationship is characterized by the ability to sensitively catch the state and motivations of the partner at far communicative distances. A broad communication arena is needed for partners for diplomatic maneuvers. At close distances and in private, when partners are deprived of an exciting change of impressions, livability is greatly reduced.

Superego (Irrational Relation): The superego relationship is constantly tacking, full of empty promises. Partners can say one thing in the face, and adhere to the opposite opinion. Their activity very much depends on the general condition of the couple. Attempts to put themselves in dependence partners have a stormy resistance. Such a pair is very changeable, needs a free change of classes.

Superego (Ethical Relation): Relationships of the superego at close distances are filled with frequent quarrels and reconciliations. In them, partners are involved in the search for some kind of sustainable position, which is very shaky and constantly slipping away. It is impossible to find logic in the behavior of each other. Relationships are characterized by passion and at the same time unreasonable behavior towards a partner.

Superego (Sensory Relation): The superego relationship is very pragmatic. Partners unite in a pair of superego with quite tangible, materialistic interests. This pair is able to accumulate experience through trial and error. Partners also monitor the status of each other and react very painfully if someone bypasses the other in the sense of obtaining benefits or privileges.

Superego (Static Relation): The relations of the superego are based on the restoration of the periodically destroyed equilibrium . Any rapid change is perceived in such a pair more likely from a negative point of view than from a positive one. In the mismatch of states, each blames the other. In a pair of superego, partners often consider each other to be selfish.

Superego (Evolutionary Relation): The evolutionary attitude of the superego leads to a gradual, although often stormy, equalization of the forces and emotional contributions of partners. Each participant responds quickly to imbalance. The amplitude of such fluctuations gradually grows, reaching a climax, and then begins to decrease, as partners learn to take fuller account of each other’s interests. The opposite of positions is becoming more and more smooth.

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