Mirror Relationship
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These relationships are well suited for friendship based on shared interests and hobbies. Mirror partners are often good friends who find it interesting to spend time together, though in communication there is often lack of openness and warmth. In mirror pair, the partners are both either theorists [intuitive types] or pragmatists [sensing types]. Therefore, they can always find common topics for discussion. These relations warm up when when a third person is present who is dual to one of partner and activator of another.
These relations are called "mirror relations" because words of one partner are often reflected in actions of another: that which one mirror partner is passively thinking about, the other is actively actualizing. However this actualization is never full. The mirror is curved, so that partners correct each other's actions from their own point of view. For this reason there may be confusion and even criticism and reprimands. Each attempts to adjust the behavior of the other but such attempts usually fail. If we consider the verbal side of communication, mirror relations could be called relations of constructive criticism. Each sees one half of the same issue, so it's always interesting to hear what your mirror partner thinks regarding the subject matter. In course of completing joint work there is mutual correction and clarification, but criticism is easily understood and is often considered constructive.
Subtypes have strong effect on these relations. If one partner is rational subtype, then for stability of the mirror pair it is best that the other partner has strengthened irrationality. When both are rational or irrational subtypes this is a worse fit, making teamwork more difficult due to differences in temp. For family life, these relations are not desirable: minor goals coincide for both partners, but global, far-reaching and long-term goals often do not. Methods of achieving these goals also remain different. The basis of this is functional mismatch of base functions - rationality versus irrationality.
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Advice for getting along: In mirror relations it is best to work out some kind of agreement or order, for example, a schedule for taking care of ongoing domestic problems and chores. Once such agreement is worked out it is better to not change it, otherwise confusion will result. One-on-one communication is recommended for this relationship type; try to avoid external influences and outsiders. Subject every important to you event to logical analysis. It is very important to reach an overall consensus about such an event, while in details there may be disagreements and this is not dangerous.
Don't try to sort out your relations on basis of emotions or force. Allow your partner the right to hold a different point of view. Express your positive disposition in kind words, compliments, and by doing small favors for your partner.
Mirror pair requires independence. Try to provide for yourselves, avoid going into debt. It is best to furnish your home modestly but on your own paychecks. Relations of this kind are strengthened by collaborative intellectual work, such as solving a crossword puzzles or watching educational TV programs together.
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Research relations: This group includes Identical, Mirror, Extinguishment and Quasi-identical relations. Their goal – to learn more about the world, its fundamental laws, and about oneself through comparison with others. Within these types of relations, ability to make comparisons, analyses, classifications, and to put forward advanced hypothesis improves markedly.
Research relations train one's mental functions. I use term "mental" here not in the sense of "belonging to the mental processes" but in reference to the mental 1, 2, 7 and 8 functional positions in socionics model.
Research relations serve as foundation for "young" partnerships i.e. psychologically immature ones. Many young people enter unions based on shared interests - music, hobbies, common conversation topics. Despite the fact that sometimes such relations are very stable, it is similar to an experiment to create a family.
Mirror (Heavy Research) – Able to reveal the opposite side of the "coin". These relations are analytical in nature and allow one to solve more complex theoretical problems. These relations place a large load on mental functions of partners. Deep insight into common topics of interest can be achieved here.
Balanced-Stable Relations: Relations have such temperament: Conflict, Mirror, Direct revision, Reverse audit. They are opposite in their temperamental effect to linear-energetic relations - they have an inhibitory and retarding effect on the dyad. These relationships take energy, but stimulate information processes. The key word conveying their meaning is BRAKING.
Specularity - mental inhibition. In the mirror dyad, the rate of mental activity slows down, but information and analytical work is intensifying.
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Disorienting discussion: An interesting and even exchange of opinions takes place with the mirror partner. However, an increasing struggle for intellectual leadership is planned, which leads in time to the separation of one of them. Subsequent discussions are becoming increasingly controversial and disorienting. But the interest in the opinion of another does not disappear, so the partners force themselves to return to their original positions. A much greater degree of reciprocity is both found in joint affairs.
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Mirror (Rational Relation): Mirror - a clear and definite relationship that brings partners to the need to analyze everything. A sharp change in the current situation, requiring a change in the adjusted rhythm of life, has a very bad effect on them.
Mirror (Logical Relation): The mirror relations of partners study the possibilities of each other in an analytical way: all information obtained about each other is laid out “on the shelves”. These relationships are devoid of passion, they show a tendency to live in a system that over time is being worked out more and more.
Mirror (Intuitive Relation): The intuitive attitude is a mirror one: mirror partners make many interesting discoveries about each other, reveal in themselves many new possibilities. Mirror pushes to care in themselves and in-depth reflection. The practical return on specularity is usually small.
Mirror (Static Relation): Mirror relationships make partners adherents of a single system, which should be extended to all the phenomena around. Transition to a new state is a rarity to which you need to get used to, comprehend it and draw conclusions. After that, the old system is completely discarded and dominates the new one. Mixed states, the muddled imposition of some principles on others violates the basis of specularity - analyticity. In fine-tuned mirror relationships, the main line of objections to each other is easily predictable.
Mirror (Involutionary Relation): Consider to start mirroring . Mirror partners always emphasize the “reverse side of the coin” - they indicate that aspect of the problem that eludes the attention of another participant. In this way, the overall picture of the situation or phenomenon is completed and the positive result of joint intellectual work is obvious. Everyone insists on his opinion, although he takes into account the arguments of the opposite side. There is no merger, there is an improvement in the systems of views of each, which are increasingly diverging.
ESE-SEI
EIE-IEI
SLE-LSI
SEE-ESI
LIE-ILI
LSE-SLI
IEE-EII
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These relationships are well suited for friendship based on shared interests and hobbies. Mirror partners are often good friends who find it interesting to spend time together, though in communication there is often lack of openness and warmth. In mirror pair, the partners are both either theorists [intuitive types] or pragmatists [sensing types]. Therefore, they can always find common topics for discussion. These relations warm up when when a third person is present who is dual to one of partner and activator of another.
These relations are called "mirror relations" because words of one partner are often reflected in actions of another: that which one mirror partner is passively thinking about, the other is actively actualizing. However this actualization is never full. The mirror is curved, so that partners correct each other's actions from their own point of view. For this reason there may be confusion and even criticism and reprimands. Each attempts to adjust the behavior of the other but such attempts usually fail. If we consider the verbal side of communication, mirror relations could be called relations of constructive criticism. Each sees one half of the same issue, so it's always interesting to hear what your mirror partner thinks regarding the subject matter. In course of completing joint work there is mutual correction and clarification, but criticism is easily understood and is often considered constructive.
Subtypes have strong effect on these relations. If one partner is rational subtype, then for stability of the mirror pair it is best that the other partner has strengthened irrationality. When both are rational or irrational subtypes this is a worse fit, making teamwork more difficult due to differences in temp. For family life, these relations are not desirable: minor goals coincide for both partners, but global, far-reaching and long-term goals often do not. Methods of achieving these goals also remain different. The basis of this is functional mismatch of base functions - rationality versus irrationality.
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Advice for getting along: In mirror relations it is best to work out some kind of agreement or order, for example, a schedule for taking care of ongoing domestic problems and chores. Once such agreement is worked out it is better to not change it, otherwise confusion will result. One-on-one communication is recommended for this relationship type; try to avoid external influences and outsiders. Subject every important to you event to logical analysis. It is very important to reach an overall consensus about such an event, while in details there may be disagreements and this is not dangerous.
Don't try to sort out your relations on basis of emotions or force. Allow your partner the right to hold a different point of view. Express your positive disposition in kind words, compliments, and by doing small favors for your partner.
Mirror pair requires independence. Try to provide for yourselves, avoid going into debt. It is best to furnish your home modestly but on your own paychecks. Relations of this kind are strengthened by collaborative intellectual work, such as solving a crossword puzzles or watching educational TV programs together.
---
Research relations: This group includes Identical, Mirror, Extinguishment and Quasi-identical relations. Their goal – to learn more about the world, its fundamental laws, and about oneself through comparison with others. Within these types of relations, ability to make comparisons, analyses, classifications, and to put forward advanced hypothesis improves markedly.
Research relations train one's mental functions. I use term "mental" here not in the sense of "belonging to the mental processes" but in reference to the mental 1, 2, 7 and 8 functional positions in socionics model.
Research relations serve as foundation for "young" partnerships i.e. psychologically immature ones. Many young people enter unions based on shared interests - music, hobbies, common conversation topics. Despite the fact that sometimes such relations are very stable, it is similar to an experiment to create a family.
Mirror (Heavy Research) – Able to reveal the opposite side of the "coin". These relations are analytical in nature and allow one to solve more complex theoretical problems. These relations place a large load on mental functions of partners. Deep insight into common topics of interest can be achieved here.
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Decelerating Relations: These relations are opposite in their energetics to relations of acceleration. The total energy potential of such dyad falls over time, simultaneously there is deepening of informational connections between partners. The advantage of these relations is thus not in activity, but in high-quality, comprehensive treatment of mutually useful or interesting information. The main recommendation is to use these relations for self-improvement and personal growth.
Mirror - two-way (mutual) direct supervision. Mirror partners correct each other in process of mutual discussion. Each believes his position to be more correct, but will also take the omitted information under consideration.
Decelerating Relations: These relations are opposite in their energetics to relations of acceleration. The total energy potential of such dyad falls over time, simultaneously there is deepening of informational connections between partners. The advantage of these relations is thus not in activity, but in high-quality, comprehensive treatment of mutually useful or interesting information. The main recommendation is to use these relations for self-improvement and personal growth.
Mirror - two-way (mutual) direct supervision. Mirror partners correct each other in process of mutual discussion. Each believes his position to be more correct, but will also take the omitted information under consideration.
Balanced-Stable Relations: Relations have such temperament: Conflict, Mirror, Direct revision, Reverse audit. They are opposite in their temperamental effect to linear-energetic relations - they have an inhibitory and retarding effect on the dyad. These relationships take energy, but stimulate information processes. The key word conveying their meaning is BRAKING.
Specularity - mental inhibition. In the mirror dyad, the rate of mental activity slows down, but information and analytical work is intensifying.
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Disorienting discussion: An interesting and even exchange of opinions takes place with the mirror partner. However, an increasing struggle for intellectual leadership is planned, which leads in time to the separation of one of them. Subsequent discussions are becoming increasingly controversial and disorienting. But the interest in the opinion of another does not disappear, so the partners force themselves to return to their original positions. A much greater degree of reciprocity is both found in joint affairs.
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Mirror (Introverted Relation): Mirror is a useful attitude for pair discussion. In a mirror pair, there is a qualitative analysis of the problem from two opposite sides, thus achieving a significant depth of penetration into the essence of the discussion. However, there is a tendency towards a somewhat unhealthy competition among the general public.
Mirror (Involutionary Relation): Consider to start mirroring . Mirror partners always emphasize the “reverse side of the coin” - they indicate that aspect of the problem that eludes the attention of another participant. In this way, the overall picture of the situation or phenomenon is completed and the positive result of joint intellectual work is obvious. Everyone insists on his opinion, although he takes into account the arguments of the opposite side. There is no merger, there is an improvement in the systems of views of each, which are increasingly diverging.
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