Reverse Order Relationship (Beneficiary)
Order chains at the psychological level
These relations are asymmetric: first partner relates to the second not in the same way as the later relates to the first. First partner, who is called request transmitter, or benefactor, looks at the second partner, called beneficiary, as someone who is a rank lower, underestimating him. The second partner, on the contrary, thinks that the other partner is an interesting, meaningful person, overestimating him at first.
Beneficiary can become very fond of benefactor and admire his behavior, demeanor, ability to easily do that to which the beneficiary aspires, the style of his thoughts, his creative approach. In presence of benefactor, beneficiary unwittingly begins to try to win his favor, to please him, for some unknown reasons to himself. This starts with little things and then progresses more and more. From aside it looks as if the beneficiary is trying to somehow justify himself to the benefactor.
At the same time there is something in behavior of benefactor that the beneficiary finds irritating. Those features that the benefactor demonstratively puts forward to attract attention and look good in public view seep into the subconscious of the beneficiary and awaken a vague desire to remove the conditions that make the benefactor act so unnaturally. The beneficiary may also be unaware what is it exactly that he is supposed to do? The issued request is not individual, but social in nature i.e. it encompasses problems of the groups of people to which this pair belongs.
From aside, relations of benefit look smooth and conflict-free. Initiator of these relations is almost always the benefactor. Beneficiary feels that deep inside the benefactor is positively predisposed towards him. The benefactor tries to encourage and support the beneficiary in any way possible. Reciprocating feedback only happens at initial stages. Further attempts to establish relations on equal conditions are not successful, the reverse connection does not get any better. The benefactor, alas, does not hear the beneficiary. As a consequence of this, beneficiary moves away and tries to keep distance from the benefactor, sometimes may even start to pick on him by way on his base function which is much weaker in benefactor. Thus, these relations can be called a relations of patronage/protection in the absence of reciprocate action. Over time, the beneficiary may begin to completely disregard the benefactor. This happens when request has been fully understood as a social one.
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Recommendations for getting along: Such a pair, if it wants to integrate, should not work in isolation on itself. Upon closing off, the beneficiary starts to resist the actions of the benefactor (reverse the order). If you want to establish reverse control, try to capture the attention of your benefactor with an unusual idea or proposition, but don't demand its immediate evaluation, simply distance. Thinking over your suggestion the benefactor is very likely to accept it.
In this pair, try to not fail each other's trust, carry out what you have promised, don't suddenly cancel joint plans and activities, talk about your intentions beforehand. For issuing direct requests, the benefactor should try to adjust himself to the beneficiary, display goodwill, take care of him. Comfort in these situations is attained by way of mutual psychological work. Beneficiary should try to not over-dramatize events in these relations. It is better to express your emotions through a third party who can guide you away from extreme interpretations and offer comfort.
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Educational relations: This group encompasses Mirage, Reverse request (benefit), Kindred, and Direct Supervision relations. They face the issue of accessing the inner world of man, addressing one's moral inquiries and inner sentiments. These relations amplify the axial (evaluative) functions - 1, 4, 6, 7. In these relations the goal is personal growth, offset or strengthening the evaluative criteria of the world and one's place in it.
This type of family is founded with the explicit or implicit goals of resolving internal psychological problems. A person in such union does not look so much for material or career support as for emotional support. For the reason of frequent household and organizational problems, life in these relations leads to crash of original illusions and ideals derived from literature.
Reverse request (Light Educational) – Instruction and teaching, appeals, changes in values. Education occurs through emotional upheavals, introduction to another ideology and style of life.
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Accelerating relations: These relations are linear-assertive in their temperament. In such dyads, there is a steady increase in emotional tension over time. When the critical point has been reached, if there isn't an increase in communicative distance and an interruption, relations become over-strained, there is possibility of nervous breakdown as a result of emotional exhaustion. The main recommendation for this dyad: use extra energy for active work.
Reverse request (benefit) - one-sided activation aimed in the opposite direction from beneficiary to benefactor. Represents beneficiary's attempt to overthrow control of the benefactor. Energy pulse instead of being passed down the benefit ring is turned the other way. Such a "breakdown" usually leads to a breakdown in communication in the dyad.
Reverse Order (Extroverted): Relations have extraverted character on both sides. They should be picked for stable business activities. Benefit dyads and triads have proven themselves to be very productive work groups, carrying out expansive policies in their sphere of activity. For family life, these relations are recommended only if both spouses are committed to carry out joint work with many outside contacts.
Reverse Order (Rational): Request plus-minus: Without constant verbal contact and planning both partners become confused, their performance deteriorates. High momentum of their activities can not be chaotic. Disruption of plans is such benefit pain is experienced as very painful.
Reverse Order (Ethical): Request minus: Most dramatic, forces a person to feel very conflicted feelings. Falling into this type of relations, a person experiences an emotional surge. This awakens his creative powers, but also pushes a person towards making annoying mistakes due to lack of objectivity in assessing own achievements.
Reverse Order (Intuitive): Order-minus - the ratio of anxiety and negative presentiments, but at the same time being “on order” improves imagination, awakens faith in one's own strength. The sub-order often has extraordinary solutions ahead of the current situation. In a redemption relationship, you are interested in the partner’s approach, its concept, that is, the general principles of operation, not its actual achievements and current status. There is a hope to adopt its technologies and techniques, but it does not have sufficient grounds. Redeeming partners quite successfully predict each other's behavior.
Reverse Order (Dynamic): The benefactor must always be in work activity. He must stay in motion and set an active pace for work. Beneficiary experiences strong emotional dynamics. His state is dramatized: hopes give way to frustration, bitterness is mixed with pleasant feelings.
Reverse Order (Evolutionary): Beneficiary aims to emulate the benefactor in his methods of solving problems, and the benefactor himself is not averse to teaching him his secrets. Thus, over time, they converge more and more. Simultaneously, the work pressure drops in this pair - it becomes exhausted and performance is much reduced. Customer and receiver become almost interchangeable representatives of the same dyad to the outside world.
ILE -> LSE: The seeker wants to be as technologically advanced and workable as the Administrator.
ESE -> SLE: The enthusiast wants to be as strong and penetrative as the Marshal.
SEI -> EII: The mediator wants to be as morally convinced as the Humanist.
LII -> IEI: The analyst wants to be as positive and carefree as Lyrik.
EIE -> ILE: The player wants to be as resourceful as the Finder.
SLE -> LIE: The Marshal wants to be as risky and courageous as an Entrepreneur.
LSI -> SEI: The inspector wants to be as livable and sociable as the Mediator.
IEI -> ESI: Lyric - to be as principled and ready to fight back others as the Keeper.
SEE -> EIE: The politician wants to be as artistic as the Player.
LIE -> IEE: The entrepreneur wants to understand people as much as a counselor.
ILI -> LSI: The critic wants to be as solid and systematic as the Inspector.
ESI -> SLI: The keeper seeks to be as agile as the Master. Quickly do everything and relax.
LSE -> SEE: The Administrator wants to be as flexible and diplomatic as the Politician.
IEE -> ESE: Advisor tries to be as tireless and positive in communication as the Enthusiast.
EII -> ILI: The humanist wants to be as far-sighted and wise as a critic.
SLI -> LII: Master - the same way to analyze complex phenomena, like the Analyst.
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Beneficiary can become very fond of benefactor and admire his behavior, demeanor, ability to easily do that to which the beneficiary aspires, the style of his thoughts, his creative approach. In presence of benefactor, beneficiary unwittingly begins to try to win his favor, to please him, for some unknown reasons to himself. This starts with little things and then progresses more and more. From aside it looks as if the beneficiary is trying to somehow justify himself to the benefactor.
At the same time there is something in behavior of benefactor that the beneficiary finds irritating. Those features that the benefactor demonstratively puts forward to attract attention and look good in public view seep into the subconscious of the beneficiary and awaken a vague desire to remove the conditions that make the benefactor act so unnaturally. The beneficiary may also be unaware what is it exactly that he is supposed to do? The issued request is not individual, but social in nature i.e. it encompasses problems of the groups of people to which this pair belongs.
From aside, relations of benefit look smooth and conflict-free. Initiator of these relations is almost always the benefactor. Beneficiary feels that deep inside the benefactor is positively predisposed towards him. The benefactor tries to encourage and support the beneficiary in any way possible. Reciprocating feedback only happens at initial stages. Further attempts to establish relations on equal conditions are not successful, the reverse connection does not get any better. The benefactor, alas, does not hear the beneficiary. As a consequence of this, beneficiary moves away and tries to keep distance from the benefactor, sometimes may even start to pick on him by way on his base function which is much weaker in benefactor. Thus, these relations can be called a relations of patronage/protection in the absence of reciprocate action. Over time, the beneficiary may begin to completely disregard the benefactor. This happens when request has been fully understood as a social one.
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Recommendations for getting along: Such a pair, if it wants to integrate, should not work in isolation on itself. Upon closing off, the beneficiary starts to resist the actions of the benefactor (reverse the order). If you want to establish reverse control, try to capture the attention of your benefactor with an unusual idea or proposition, but don't demand its immediate evaluation, simply distance. Thinking over your suggestion the benefactor is very likely to accept it.
In this pair, try to not fail each other's trust, carry out what you have promised, don't suddenly cancel joint plans and activities, talk about your intentions beforehand. For issuing direct requests, the benefactor should try to adjust himself to the beneficiary, display goodwill, take care of him. Comfort in these situations is attained by way of mutual psychological work. Beneficiary should try to not over-dramatize events in these relations. It is better to express your emotions through a third party who can guide you away from extreme interpretations and offer comfort.
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Educational relations: This group encompasses Mirage, Reverse request (benefit), Kindred, and Direct Supervision relations. They face the issue of accessing the inner world of man, addressing one's moral inquiries and inner sentiments. These relations amplify the axial (evaluative) functions - 1, 4, 6, 7. In these relations the goal is personal growth, offset or strengthening the evaluative criteria of the world and one's place in it.
This type of family is founded with the explicit or implicit goals of resolving internal psychological problems. A person in such union does not look so much for material or career support as for emotional support. For the reason of frequent household and organizational problems, life in these relations leads to crash of original illusions and ideals derived from literature.
Reverse request (Light Educational) – Instruction and teaching, appeals, changes in values. Education occurs through emotional upheavals, introduction to another ideology and style of life.
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Accelerating relations: These relations are linear-assertive in their temperament. In such dyads, there is a steady increase in emotional tension over time. When the critical point has been reached, if there isn't an increase in communicative distance and an interruption, relations become over-strained, there is possibility of nervous breakdown as a result of emotional exhaustion. The main recommendation for this dyad: use extra energy for active work.
Reverse request (benefit) - one-sided activation aimed in the opposite direction from beneficiary to benefactor. Represents beneficiary's attempt to overthrow control of the benefactor. Energy pulse instead of being passed down the benefit ring is turned the other way. Such a "breakdown" usually leads to a breakdown in communication in the dyad.
Linear-Assertive Relations: This temperamental group includes the relations: Activation, Quasi-Identity, Direct Order and Reverse Order. These relationships have the highest energy. Therefore, their effect in the dyad activates, accelerates, increases energy. The key word conveying the temperamental action of this four of relationships is ACTIVATION.
Reverse order - the moral and psychological activation reported by the customer to the customer. A reverse customer may offend, touch with a sharp note, embark on teaching, educating.
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Cautious Adjustment: Communication is not as much interesting as it is activating and mobilizing. You [the benefactor] are critical of the opinions and behaviors of your partner. During a silent moment, you start feeling uncomfortable. At times, it seems that your partner is ignoring or not noticing something, so then you start to forcibly bring the matter to his attention. You don't make efforts to befriend such a partner, more likely he invites you himself offering this or that project. Whether relations establish or not depends on whether he manages to interest you. Once you are sure that your partner indeed provides valuable information, you use it with great benefit for yourself.
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Reverse Order (Extroverted): Relations have extraverted character on both sides. They should be picked for stable business activities. Benefit dyads and triads have proven themselves to be very productive work groups, carrying out expansive policies in their sphere of activity. For family life, these relations are recommended only if both spouses are committed to carry out joint work with many outside contacts.
Reverse Order (Rational): Request plus-minus: Without constant verbal contact and planning both partners become confused, their performance deteriorates. High momentum of their activities can not be chaotic. Disruption of plans is such benefit pain is experienced as very painful.
Reverse Order (Dynamic): The benefactor must always be in work activity. He must stay in motion and set an active pace for work. Beneficiary experiences strong emotional dynamics. His state is dramatized: hopes give way to frustration, bitterness is mixed with pleasant feelings.
Reverse Order (Evolutionary): Beneficiary aims to emulate the benefactor in his methods of solving problems, and the benefactor himself is not averse to teaching him his secrets. Thus, over time, they converge more and more. Simultaneously, the work pressure drops in this pair - it becomes exhausted and performance is much reduced. Customer and receiver become almost interchangeable representatives of the same dyad to the outside world.
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